Feel Happier Right Now By Doing One of These 7 Things
And it’s been a crap year; who needs pressure to feel happy on top of everything? It’s OK to feel however you’re feeling. We are human. The ebbs and flows have been on steroids this year, haven’t they? We deserve a slow start.
But I wanted to share some ways we can all get a BOOST OF HAPPY. One of the elements of all the parts of me are linked by chemistry – the happy hormones oxytocin, serotonin and dopamine.
In helping brands say better things to their people, in helping creatives in business find more happiness in their purpose, in sharing my own stories about the high’s and low’s of life.
So, if you’re feeling a bit sluggish, a bit meh to January, I wanted to share a few oxytocin boosters that you can do as much or as little as you like.
All I ask is DO MORE OF THEM! You can thank me later.💗
1 Include compassion in your meditations.
There’s a more active form of meditation called “metta” where you think about those you love, here and departed as well as those we’re neutral to and those you have difficulty with. You basically direct loving kindness to them. Get your compassion on and change your brain game bit by bit.
2. Reframe your attitude to money
If you’re feeling a bit wiped out after Christmas and 2020 austerity, there’s an awesome game called The Prosperity Game designed by Abrahim Hicks to change your money mindset. Every day you give yourself a new pay check from the universe and you have to decide how to spend it. Each day you double it and keep writing down how you’re spending it, but you have to spend it all and can’t give it away.
This is also a great game to play with kids, to get them thinking and talking about money and understanding value etc.
3. Take a hot bath followed by a cold shower
It increases both serotonin and oxytocin. Since I’ve been alcohol free, slipping into an evening bath to take away the running aches and the bloody head pains of schooling and lockdown life, has given me that same buzz that pouring a glass of wine does.
Enjoy the soak then go all Wim Hoff and take an ice cold shower, for as long as you can bare. This mini habit has been quite life-changing for me, you come away feeling super-relaxed but also full of vitality.
4. Have more orgasms
Treasure, pleasure should never ever be a chore. ‘Nuff said.
I’ve been watching / listening and reading a lot on forgiveness recently and incorporating it into my restorative thinking time. A shitty old boss, energy sapping friend or ex-lover who wronged you, remember it, feel how you felt for a few secs and then say “SEE YA” in a compassionate but firm kind of way, taking in how you feel, what they’re wearing, how they react”.
Nothing changes our brains more than the act of forgiveness
6. Listen with your eyes
I talked about this on Instagram recently and it’s something I do a lot. I ignore what people are saying when I don’t believe or understand them, I choose instead to focus on the language they’re using with their eyes because that’s where the truth lies. Just the briefest eye contact has been found in studies to heighten empathetic feelings and creates deeper human connections.
7. Fall in love with yourself
Truly, just try it. Starting with thinking about what you love about yourself, warts and all and ending in the language that you use when you talk to yourself inside your head. I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t talk to a friend in the way you talk to yourself.
Oscar Wilde said:
“to love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance” and he knew a thing or two, right?
Let me know which one you’ll do today in the comments.
Love, Ruth XO
PS: If you’d like to feel more connected with your purpose this year, book a 90 minute online workshop with me.